“It’s OK that Muhammad married a child because people didn’t live as long back then” – Really?

“It’s OK that Muhammad married a child because people didn’t live as long back then” – Really?


Dr. Stephen M. Kirby and Robert Gorter, MD, PhD.


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Still today, one can find Muslims who deny that Muhammad married Aisha when she was six and consummated the marriage with she was nine. This is in spite of Aisha’s own words, e.g.:

“Narrated ‘Aishah that the Prophet wrote the marriage contract with her when she was six years old and he consummated his marriage when she was nine years old, and then she remained with him for nine years (i.e. till his death).”[1]


“The Messenger of God came to our house and men and women of the Ansar gathered around him. My mother came to me [Aisha] while I was being swung on a swing between two branches and got me down. Jumaymah, my nurse, took over and wiped my face with some water and started leading me. When I was at the door, she stopped so I could catch my breath. I was then brought [in] while the Messenger of God was sitting on a bed in our house. [My mother] made me sit on his lap and said, “These are your relatives. May God bless you with them and bless them with you!” Then the men and women got up and left. The Messenger of God consummated his marriage with me in my house when I was nine years old.”[2]

And numerous Muslim scholars have also reported these ages of six and nine in many authoritative works over the centuries.[3]

Consequently, there are many Muslims today who do acknowledge these ages, but they rationalize it by claiming that since people on the Arabian Peninsula in the 7th Century did not live as long as we do today, things like marriage had to be done at much earlier ages. Is this true?


9 years old and a wife?

A 9 (6?) years old child must be ready for marriage: it is God`s Will

Let’s examine the claim that 7th Century Arabs had shorter life spans. We’ll start off by considering Muhammad’s own eleven wives:

The Wives of Muhammad and Their Ages at Death:

Khadija[4] – age 65

Sawdah bint Zam’ah[5] – age 72

Aisha[6] – age 66

Hafsa bint ‘Umar[7] – age 61

Zaynab bint Khuzaimah[8] – age 30

Umm Salamah[9] – age 84

Zaynab bint Jahash[10] – age 51

Juwayriyyah bint al-Harith[11] – age 65

Safiyyah bint Huyay[12] – age 60

Umm Habibah bint Abu Sufyan[13] – age 73

Maymunah bint al-Harith[14] – age 80

Muhammad’s fifth wife, Zaynab bint Khuzaimah, was the exception among Muhammad’s wives in terms of age at death. Leaving Zaynab out of the equation, we find that Muhammad’s other wives died when they were between 51 and 84 years old; the average age of death was 67.7 years. Aisha herself lived to be 66.

The “Rightly Guided” Caliphs and Their Ages at Death[15]

These are the first four Muslim leaders after Muhammad died. They were called “Rightly Guided” because they are believed to have held the most firmly to the teachings and example of Muhammad.

Abu Bakr (the first Caliph) – age 63

‘Umar bin Al-Khattab (the second Caliph) – assassinated at age 63

‘Uthman bin Affan (the third Caliph) – assassinated at age 80

‘Ali bin Abi Talib (Muhammad’s cousin and fourth Caliph) – assassinated at about age 61

Muhammad died at age 62. We can see that three of his four successors also lived into their early sixties, with the fourth even reaching the age of 80 before he was assassinated.

Other Important Muslims and Their Ages at Death:

Let’s consider some other Muslims notable enough to be listed in various writings:

‘Abdullah bin Abbas (Muhammad’s cousin and Koran expert) – age 70

‘Abdullah bin Mas’ud (one of the most learned Muslims) – almost 70

‘Abdullah bin Umar (son of the second Caliph) – age 80

‘Abdur Rahman bin Auf (among the first eight people to accept Islam) – age 75

Abu Hurairah (close Companion of Muhammad) – about 60

Abu Qatadah Al-Ansari (the Horseman of Muhammad) – age 70

Asma bint Abi Bakr (Aisha’s older sister) – age 87

Khalid bin Walid (the Sword of Islam) – age 60

Sa’d bin Abi Waqqas (one of Muhammad’s uncles and an early convert to Islam) – age 83

Sa’eed bin Zayd (early convert to Islam) – over 70

Safiyyah bint ‘Abdul-Muttalib (aunt of Muhammad) – over 70

Salman Al-Farisi (known for his knowledge about Islam) – over 70

As we can see, these Muslims lived to between 60 and 87 years of age.

What immediately jumps to mind is the fact that those listed above actually lived life spans that are pretty common in our time. In terms of Muhammad’s eleven wives, with the exception of one, their average age of death was 67.7 years. And Aisha herself lived to be 66.

These facts refute the claim that the only reason Muhammad married a six year old child and consummated their marriage when the child was nine was because folks didn’t live as long back then.

The reality is that Muhammad married a child and consummated that marriage with the child simply because he wanted to and he could.


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Dr. Stephen M. Kirby is the author of five books about Islam. His latest book is The Lure of Fantasy Islam: Exposing the Myths and Myth Makers.

[1] Muhammad bin Ismail bin Al-Mughirah al-Bukhari, Sahih Al-Bukhari, trans. Muhammad Muhsin Khan (Riyadh, Kingdom of Saudi Arabia: Darussalam, 1997), Vol. 7, Book 67, No. 5133, p. 57.

[2] Abu Ja’far Muhammad b. Jarir al-Tabari, The History of al-Tabari: The Last Years of the Prophet, Vol. IX, trans. and annotated Ismail K. Poonawala (Albany, New York: State University of New York Press, 1990), pp. 130-131.

[3]  Sahih Al-Bukhari, Vol. 5, Book 63, No. 3894, pp. 139-140; Safiur-Rahman al-Mubarakpuri, The Sealed Nectar (Riyadh, Kingdom of Saudi Arabia: Darussalam, 2008), pp. 176-177, and 562; Safiur Rahman Mubarakpuri, When the Moon Split (Riyadh, Kingdom of Saudi Arabia: Darussalam, 2009), p. 129; Abu’l Hussain ‘Asakir-ud-Din Muslim bin Hajjaj al-Qushayri al-Naisaburi, Sahih Muslim, trans. ‘Abdul Hamid Siddiqi (New Delhi, India: Adam Publishers and Distributors, 2008), Vol. 4, Nos. 1422, 1422R1 and 1422R3, pp. 353-355; Muhammad bin Yazeed ibn Majah al-Qazwini, Sunan Ibn Majah, trans. Nasiruddin al-Khattab (Riyadh, Kingdom of Saudi Arabia: Darussalam, 2007), Vol. 3, No. 1876, p. 76; Abu Dawud Sulaiman bin al-Ash’ath bin Ishaq, Sunan Abu Dawud, trans. Yaser Qadhi (Riyadh, Kingdom of Saudi Arabia: Darussalam, 2008), Vol. 2, No. 2121, p. 540; and Vol. 5, No. 4933, p. 327; Abu ‘Abdur-Rahman Ahmad bin Shu’aib bin ‘Ali bin Sinan bin Bahr An-Nasa’i, Sunan An-Nasa’i, trans. Nasiruddin al-Khattab (Riyadh, Kingdom of Saudi Arabia: Darussalam, 2007), Vol. 4, No. 3257, p. 118, and Nos. 3380-3381, pp. 181-182; Abu Ja’far Muhammad b. Jarir al-Tabari, The History of al-Tabari: The Foundation of the Community, Vol. VII, trans. and annotated W. Montgomery Watt and M. V. McDonald (Albany, New York: State University of New York Press, 1987), pp. 6-7; and The Honourable Wives of the Prophet, ed. Abdul Ahad (Riyadh, Kingdom of Saudi Arabia: Darussalam, 2004), p. 42.

[4] Brief Biography of Ist Ummul-Mumineen Syeda Tahera Khadijatul-Kubra Bint Khuwailid (RA)  http://www.quransearchonline.com/Home/Biography.asp.

[5] Brief Biography of IInd-Ummul-Mumineen Umme-Saudah Bint Zama (RA) –http://www.quransearchonline.com/HTML/Biography/ilyref/saudaraz.html.

[6] Brief Biography of IIIrd-Ummul-Mumineen A’isha Siddiqa (RA) Bint Abu Bakr Siddiq (RA) – http://www.quransearchonline.com/Home/Biography.asp.

[7] Brief Biography of IVth-Ummul-Mumineen Sayeda Hafsa (RA) Bint Umer Farooq (RA) – http://www.quransearchonline.com/Home/Biography.asp.

[8] Brief Biography of Vth-Ummul-Mumineen Zainab Bint Khuzaimah (Ummul-Masakeen) (RA) – http://www.quransearchonline.com/Home/Biography.asp.

[9] Brief Biography of VIth-Ummul-Mumineen Umm-e-Salma Bint Abe Umayya (RA) – http://www.quransearchonline.com/Home/Biography.asp.

[10] Brief Biography of VIIth-Ummul-Mumineen Zainab Bint Jahash (RA) – http://www.quransearchonline.com/Home/Biography.asp.

[11] Brief Biography of VIIIth-Ummul-Mumineen Juwairiyah Bint Harith (RA) – http://www.quransearchonline.com/Home/Biography.asp.

[12] Brief Biography of IXth-Ummul-Mumineen Safiyah Bint Huyaiy (RA) – http://www.quransearchonline.com/Home/Biography.asp.

[13] Brief Biography of Xth-Ummul-Mumineen Umm-e-Habeebah (RA) Bint Abi Sufyan (RA) – http://www.quransearchonline.com/Home/Biography.asp.

[14] Brief Biography of XIth-Ummul-Mumineen Maimunah Bint Harith Al-Hilalia (RA) – http://www.quransearchonline.com/Home/Biography.asp.

[15] This and the following section are based on: 1) Muhammad ibn ‘Abdul Wahhab at-Tamimi, Abridged Biography of Prophet Muhammad, ed. ‘Abdur-Rahman bin Nasir Al-Barrak, ‘Abdul ‘Azeez bin ‘Abdullah Ar-Rajihi, and Muhammad Al-‘Ali Al-Barrak (Riyadh, Kingdom of Saudi Arabia: Darussalam, 2003); 2) Sa’d Yusuf Abu ‘Aziz, Men and Women Around the Messenger, trans. Suleman Fulani (Riyadh, Kingdom of Saudi Arabia: Darussalam, 2009); and 3) HistoryMuslim, http://allabouthistorymuslim.blogspot.com/.




An 8 year old Yemeni child bride, a mere girl, recently died on her wedding night from internal hemorrhaging. She was married to a man five times her age. As disgusting as the tradition of marrying off children to much older men is, it is unfortunately till today common practice in Yemen and many Islamic countries around the world. More than a quarter of the female population is for three days in labor, attempting to give birth to a baby. Countless other children have been subjected to similar atrocities.being married before the age of 15. In 2010, a 12 year-old girl passed away after struggling





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